guess we will see

CoCo is hardly cocoa and She's ugly!!!!   I rather see Superhead.....

she'd make a great pornstar...hope she does well with her scene

Mmmmm, Cocoa!!!!!

whats up with all the black men and  bland  light or white women in the U.S. What aint no hot black mamas out there for yall to marry or 'are the African queens just there to be homies,lovers and friend, but no ring. what's up I wanna know

No, sistas are too bossy, and nappy headed.

Rhomari....Wow, good lookin out for the sistas, and unfortunately there are plenty of hot black mama's in the U.S., but if we ain't lightskin, with a "half-white" look, and long weave, brotha's do not try to holla. And by the way BIG BLACK...I am bossy, nappy headed and gorgeous! Call it institutional racism...Whitey have brainwashed us to believe that if it ain't light, it ain't right. Unlike places such as AFrica, brown skin or "chocolate" women are not revered or even worthy enough to be in a music video, we always lose love to our lightskin counterparts. Every minority group here (MExican, Asian, Samoa, Black, etc) have the same exact issue! All of these groups consider the lighter skin ones to be better looking, so it's not just blacks, it's every group that has brown skin. It's sad how our dominate culture ony accepts the Colin Powells and the Halle Berry's of our race. Light is right is what they say.

eyo, name one white gurl will booty, for each 5, youll get 5 dollars



chaching chaching

I love white girls, they are fun. Black chicks always got a fuckin attitude. I would date any chick, but black girls need to get they minds right....

Keep it pimpin brovaz 'cause I'm white and I'm getting those nappy headed, cornbread and baked maccaroni and cheese ass black bitches on my nizzuts for your white girl trickin' yadadadig LOL

Yo, i think there are a ton of dark skinned queens as well as light skinned ones. I think the real issue with black women, is the fact that you cant be a nobody and get at them, i lived it for real. I was broke as a joke when i was coming up that equated into no ass of any sort for a long time. Once i started to get my hustle on a bit the doors opened up a little more. With White girls it wasn't like that I was toting the rock for an all white high school and that was all i needed for them. they just wanted to say the was with the star of the football team. That doesn't make them better, but i didn't need to have anything besides a reputation to get some, ya dig. If it weren't for the white girls I would have stayed hungary, they paid for me to eat lunch and get fly. Now that I'm a GROWN A MAN, its all easy. I don't carwe what race you are, if your not a grown woman I cant mess with you. I think that Black women need to stop thinking video chick and start thinking proud black WOMAN. I would never mess with a hood chick black or white, because they wouldn't mess with me if I didn't have something to give. Take a look in  the mirror be proud of yourself ( The great HOV).

She isnt even american bro, she is foreign, somewhere in eurpoe i think, get your mind right, bitch got a top 5 ass for sure

I am a black woman, and these comments about us makes me so sad...Not all black women will deny you if you're a black man, there are many strong black women that hold it down for their man, even when theyre broke. That might not be some of ya'll experiences, but those are YOUR experiences, and not the complete truth of all of us. I am so sad to see black (and white) men on here calling black women bitches, nappy head, etc. Don't forget brotha's, you wouldnt be here if a strong black women didnt get birth to you! And just because white women be on your nutz when you're broke, doesnt mean that they don't sit around the dinner table with the rest of their White family and call you a nigga and a porch monkey! Black women may have some issues, but guess what, we are the strongest women in the world. Can someone please feel me?

These comments are sad. I'm not black, but I was raised by a strong Black women. And i'm gonna tell you this, white women often date black men so they can make their parents upset. Many of them don't like you for you, you're just an experiment to them, can she take you home to meet her mama? Usually not. I am utterly shocked at the negativity towards women who brought you to this earth. So disgusted.

black girls are crazy,white girls are chill to jam with straight up!

i MOST DEFINITELY  hold it down for mine. As a matter of fact, I live by the words, "If you choose booty of beauty and brains," I didn't need you anyway." He is still here and locked. FYI, I'm a redbone and disliked highly by almost every dark sista that comes in my presence.
Why does it have to be?

I feel you Missy

Black, white, latin, asian, I could give a damn as long as we mesh, but black chicks are the only ones complaining about blk dudes getting with white girls... BLACK WOMEN: you make us work TOO hard!  And not just for ass, but for general attention and affection.  Take the time to breathe and relax.  I know the 'world' sucks  b/c you're a double mionority, but it would suck less if you had a good man by your side so "help me, help you, help me, help you".  Also, As an educated black man who makes legitimate money, chicks that use the word "holla" still!!! NO matter what race, I'm passing...  And Keyes is right; most white chicks I did in college were just using me as a tool of 'rebellion'.  So don't full yourself.  

fuck black bitches

As long as they pay- Color is never a factor! http://ItsHardOutHereForAPimp.com

I am never at lost for words but right now i am blues all i have to say is fuck you and balling fuck you too and you all are so stupid its ridiculous and missy i feel you and people wonder why we can't get anywhere as african americans and yes i feel you missy

blues....
i cant believe the bro's in this forum are going to let him get away with that. thats the prob today we allow people to treat our queens with this disrespect. yall wack as hell, i have seen yall get more upset over some jay z and lil wayne bullshit, im out this wack ass forum.
yall brotha's weak he might as well said fuck your mother. dang we lost as a people.

I think we need to stop saying things about black women that are so negetive. When I hear things lke this it makes me want to say wake up! (what do I mean)? These women that we speak on so negetivly are our MOTHERS, GRANDMOTHERS, SISTER, COUSINS, FRIENDS etc. All women are beautiful and people in general go after what they like, I'm saying.......don't YOU!! of course you do!! stop putting our BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMEN down, by trying to explain why some black men like to date outside of there race, hell they do it like, black women, white women and all other races do!!! all races date outside of there race some even outside of the human race...LOL..but it is only because we all, as people, chase what we find attractive and nobody needs a reason for that. So cut it out and all you humans that decide to date who ever YOU decide to date be woman or man enough to admit it because you likewhat you like and stop looking for an explanation.

Well I'll be DAMN!!!! BLUES what a dum ass. That was the most childess comment I have ever heard!! I can understand, you can't really understand the subject matter, but what I don't understand is WHERE ARE YOUR PARENTS!!! you have got to be in the fifth grade with that one...so because of that I won't scolled you to bad....BUT BOY!! you need to take a nap and hopefully wake up GROWN! But for now, go back to the disney chanel...before your momma kicks your *SS!

its not that we dont like black women, that generation that gave birth to us black men is passed..we dont have the strong-willed women by our sides anymore..we livin in a BET,video vixen, what-u-did for-me-lately age.These sista out here buggin for real..But most inportant, everyone in this world are individuals..all that black power shit when out the door when we keep on killin each other..believe it or not our race is so fucked up, most of black are ashamed to be black..every step we take, we take 10 steps back..true story.so ima do me and prosoper..whatever happend to being with someone who makes you happy? if Im supposed to be wit u then thats what it is.

To all the black dudes: i'm a white girl i'm from buffalo ny from my own personal experiences the white girls i know do not use black dudes as rebellion or to make anyone mad the white girls that do date black men are dating them because black men have a different swagger i guess you could call it we like that hood attitude the style its kinda of like being in a different world any black dude iw as involved with seemed to be more into pleasing me and passionate when it came to sex idk if that goes for all black dudes or just the guys i've had in my life white dudes seem to be more into themselves white dudes play mind games black dudes seem to make girls feel more wanted i guess the names they call u like baby and shit and ma i never had a white dude talk like that to me cant really expain it its just different people like whats different because its a break from the norm theres things that black dudes do that white ones dont that they could never do the same as a black dude and the same goes for the other way around but i do think that alllll guys havea  strewd misconseption of what a female is supposed to be like and act calling your own race nappy headed? r u kidding? do u have a mother? u call her that too? i think everyone shoudl stop watchign music videos and step outside into the real world and look at what kinda girls you see. you see normal BEAUTIFUL women all colors shapes and attitudes calling all black women bossy is a horrible generalization because every women is different. i think that black women get a bad reputation because when u turn on bet mtv mtvjams all you see are music videos filled with half naked girls which 95 percent of the girls are black women what ever happen to music with a point with substance that wasnt all about degrading women gold grills and coup devilles? what happend to using ur voice for something good to speak your mind? if what i see on tv is a reflection of what is on every guys mind i dont want to know anymore because if degrading women is all you guys care about then i guess i'm gonna have to stick to my old skool albums i dont watch tv or buy any cd that talks about thingsl ike thati refuse to contribute to the degration of women. and another thing i'm all about being proud of your race and who you are and i hear kanye west on tv say bush hates black people and other rappers saying things in the same category and i dont understand how black men can speak on a subject of that matter when they dont even love theyre own race how can you say bush doesnt like black people when your music and your videos degrade black women youd ont even love your own women but u care about what bush thinks? i hate bush and i hate kanye west. i dont like anyone whos racist because nothing good comes from hate. black men u need to take a look around you read all the comments on this page from black women its not anger its sadness you were born from a black women how can you call them bitches and hoes in songs or in general? like lil waynes song says "shut up bitch swallow and if you can swallow shut up bitch garggle"<- he makes me sick how dare you talk about women like that any women black or white what if it got switched upand women were talkin like that and were the majority of rappers and we degraded men like that?


and to all the black girls: I'm not a black girl so i can only feel u on the girl level but i might be able to understand where your coming from i think it goes with all girls maybe black girls more but i know that when i see a buncha half naked girls in music videos black or white its degrading and unecessary and it makes guys treat girls with disrespect because it seems to me that guys think all girls should be like that and we're not we're normal girls all shapes colors and sizes and we ALL deserve respect but i would justl ike to say this to those who may not see or hear this its the same way with us but the opposite do u know why white girls go tanning? cuz when we stand next to a girl whos got tan skin and u standint here wit some pasty pale skin the dudes dontl ook at you they look right threw u i think guys j ustl ike that light brown skin tone so if you a dark black girl you probably feel the same way i do when i'm polish irish and german the whitest nationalities you can get as i stand there next to a girl whos got a golden brown tan get ignored. as far as black dudes calling girls of there own race nappy headed i dont understand that you should love everything about yourself its part of your heritage its what makes you an african american person from the psychical appearance to cultural values and habits i think everyone wants what they cant have someties i wish i could have an ass like my black girls got lol but hey what can ya do! and i know a lotta my black girl friends b tellin me they wish theyhad my hair and then theres others that dont at all that say they're glad they odnt got my hair all girls are beautiful i think that if girls stop being prejudice tords eachother and stick together our opinions might be heard louder i love having friends of other races because it makes me a more rounded person i can identify with a lotta things in this world because of where i'm from and the people that i've met

I feel you ISH you souldnt be ashamed to be black you should be ashamed of the people we see on tv that reinforce the black stereotypes. the women in those videos have no self respect because they dont feel they deserve it or they just dont care either way it aint good its up to the men to help too i think that black men need to reinvent the game back to what it used to be back to supporting and respecting women when women of any color feel that they need to do videos like that and make porn videos and shit of that nature then thats a problem and it started a logn time ago our generation needs to open our eyes and fidn out what we valuein life becaues if what we value is what is being shown on tv in our videos then we are in trouble

Maybe he got tired of yall complaining lol.

You brothers on this page that say black women give to much attitude are straight wack, the one's who make reference to a set of women by calling them b word are wack. Men always talking about bitch this and that I wont even go on any longer. We are in the age that men want to act like boys. It's up to us men to lift up ourselves and our beautiful black women. Stop this bullshit. All who have made negative comments about my sisters need to check yourselves. You are the bitches out there. Soft minded punks.

whut up OLD Sk00L (smile)

relax mos high..dont hurt em..

Relax.  All women are beautiful, unless they smell funny.  

Who cares what color someone is....we are all gonna die.  You better find a SANE, human being that was taught how to LOVE; in these last days of earth.  Don't be so simple minded as to where your complex mind is controlled by the first thing you see...a color.  Do all of you understand how you are dumbing down your soul?  It stops when you want it to...a man died for you to be judged by your character.  What would you die for?  Does it really mean anything in the long run?  Ask yourself.

To  tell the truth, I am American with a very mixed background.  So I am offended by racism of every angle.  I have come to the conclusion that people like their ignorance.  So it ain't bout black or white with me...can you get green?  Most people who look at race as an issue that I know are broke.  Whether it be a "sista" complaining bout "brothas" being with white girls or the white man complaining about minorities.  I would say that they all had money issues.  (the ones I knew)  Get ya money right and live how you want to.  I'm too busy to worry bout someone else's actions or choices.  I prefer menage-a-trois with a scoop of vanilla & chocolate! Love is the answer.

whats up with all the black men and  bland  light or white women in the U.S. What aint no hot black mamas out there for yall to marry or 'are the African queens just there to be homies,lovers and friend, but no ring. what's up I wanna know                                                             BLACK GUYS ARE MARRYING MORE AND MORE WHITE WOMEN BECAUSE WHITE WOMEN ARE STILL WILLING TO PLAY THE SUBMISSIVE "WIFEY" ROLE!!!! ALL THAT NECK ROLLING, FINGER SNAPPING, INDEPENDENT WOMAN SHIT IS WHAT GOT YALL SINGLE AND LONELY!!!! I LOVE MY SISTAS LIKE MY SISTAS... NOT LIKE MY WIFE!!! SO TO ALL THE BLACK WOMEN THATS SICK OF LOSING YOUR MEN TO A WHITE WOMAN... LEARN TO SHUT YOUR GOD DAMN MOUTH AND BE A WIFE!!!!!!

Uh bro's ya'll sound like straight up punks! So basically what you're sayin' is...You want some punk as White girl to kiss yo ass, make you breakfast and give it up, never argue or disagree with you, and to shut her mouth so that she can make you happy-Well, your right, a White chick would be perfect for you. I am a Black man and I tell you what, if some shit go down, that White broad is gone! But a sistah will straight kill a nigga for her man! Black women are loyal as hell! and if that ain't your experience, okay then, but don't blame it on all black women! Shit! You can keep light bright, i'm dippin in chocolate-holla!

Mos High-Thank you. You are truly a class act.

I thought this topic is about coco why did it switch to black woman.

got damn... i come here to see COCO's wonderful booty and for the first time i see people actually commenting in the pics section... thats a rarity indeed.....  The topic "Why are black men choosing white women or Black Women have attitudes and are gold diggers" that shit is beyond OLD... come on people pick something else...  how about instead of TELLING people how much of a queen or king you are or how smart you are or how well educated you are or how you respect your mother, just LIVE THAT SHIT... be that shit... Real WINNERS dont have to say SHIT cause REAL people can smell that SHIT...  i just dont understand all this light skin dark skinned shit, i've NEVER had to deal with it... shit i've known people that are hung up on that shit but 9 times out of 10 those people are losers and aint winning at shit...  I could really give two fucks if black men are dating white women or other  black men for that matter...  that aint the shit that i'm worried about, real recognize real so i've never had a problem dating...   y'all gotta stop pointing fingers and look at yourselves to see why "black women give you grief" or why "black men think you're trifling"  GET IT TOGETHER PEOPLE nah matter of fact DONT GET IT TOGETHER that leaves more opportunity for the strong to squash the weak and STAY GETTING IT...  anyway... back to coco... WHERE's the ASS SHOTS?  that ass is a work of art like for real it belongs in a museum or something...  anyone else but me see that video of her around the house making her ass jump?  COCO is pure entertainment i bet ICE feels like a kid in a candy store every night... =)

Dark women are beautiful..... But so are light-skinned women. Truthfully I am more attracted to light-skinned women rather than dark-skinned women. Hold on. Maybe I am more attracted to straight hair women more than anything. I'm not dissing the so-called "nappy headed WOMEN (not ho's)" but I do prefer long straight hair. Most of the straight-hair women I've dated are mixed so usually lighter. I'm sorry if that seems bias but most black women want long straight hair also. I know it's extra to keep your hair as straight as an Indian's every single day but it is more attractive to most men AND WOMEN. I have a thing for Hispanics, I do, I do. My girl is mixed with Spanish and something and certain people hate that. She is as stubborn, bitchy, and bossy as anybody so throw that submissive shit out the window. But that's me, that's my boo. Like it or not. I love my black women through and through, straight hair or not. But I found a woman I truly dig so fuck those who oppose.

Question!

I'm curious. Even though I don't believe this, do black women expect black men to stop dating white women when the white woman does everything to please their man?

That's what I found on a few blogs of disgruntled black women. A black woman calls the black guy weak for dealing with a white woman that worships him. Personally, I've never dated a caucasion woman so I don't know first hand, but why would you not date a woman who treats you better than you ever been treated by anybody. It doesn't make sense to me. But to those men who do PREY on white women to be idolized are bitches to me who can't handle an adult relationship.

Oh yeah!
Blues, IThinkIFoundMyStash, Dizz-E, and Ballin are bitches and just want attention. You're not going to be anything in life because when you're given a little anoynimity.

Oh yeah!
Blues, IThinkIFoundMyStash, Dizz-E, and Ballin are bitches and just want attention. You're not going to be anything in life because when you're given a little anoynimity you act like bitches, most things in the dark usually come to light.

What does it matter who dates who? Who gives a f@#k? Worry about yourself. I'm tired of people getting upset with others because of who they care to date, so what? What does someone else's relationship have to do with you? Live your life and do you. I'm a black male who will date any race of woman as long as we have chemistry and share the same. This world is so closed minded and ignorant its not even funny. To me coco is a beautiful woman period, white or black. So can we please get pass the color of one's skin, i can understand why older ppl may be this way, but younger ppl should be more open minded. And why is it always a crime when a black guy dates a white woman but when a black woman dates a white its because "they are bettering themselves and they get the go girl treatment" take Halle Berry for example. And i'm not saying ne thing is wrong with her, i'm just simply saying that it always seems as if its always a crime if a black guy dates a white woman..but to each its own...Just my two cents...And honestly i can't even believe i'm replying to an "online blog..."

Hold up ya'll, the issue isnt about who people date, the issue is, why do most of these men have to hate black women! I truly don't care if black men date a white girl, but damn do you have to put black women down in the  process?

I don't believe anyone said anything about being ashamed of being BLACK do not get it twisted WE ARE a strong race!! it is just that people of another color (or not) are always trying to break us down, if 1 black person alone can scare you in the mall, just imagine what is going to happen when OUR race comes together. Pay attention to young Black america they are the ones on the rise, in white coorparate america. NOW LET THE GAMES BEGIN. olskool I'm sorry you don't have a clue as to the plight of black females, no disrespect but your comments are very disrespectful and if you new about OUR plight you would never have made those statements! agian no disrespect, but growing up around black people is not the same, you can always move to a white town and go unnoticed.

How did we get on this, we were talking about a TV show!!!!!!!!!!!HUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM! makes you think.

If you look back at what started all this nonsense you will see it was someone saying "what, sistas ain't good enough?".  I have never understood why it has to get to that.  Black guys get pissed when they see a white guy dating a black woman.  And obviously, vice versa.  Why the hell does it matter???  I thought the overall plan was to be at peace with everyone regardless of race.  I can't wait till the world is filled with nothing but mixed people so it will never be an issue again.  And black women are NOT the strongest women in the world - TRUE MOTHERS are.  That would include any race.  Breathe dammit.

I have to agree with stop it, get over it...We as ppl feel as if "our" struggles are greater than others and that others don't have struggles. When are we gonna realize that we all are humans and all have "struggles" and "plights" as one person put it. Everybody is different. I hate reading post like this b/c its filled with closed minded ignorant statements. Now i don't agree with the whole world being mixed but i do feel all mothers, black, white, asian, latin are all queens in their own right. And yes as one person said, when did this become an issue of race if the topic is about a "woman" making a debut appearance on a television show? But it is what it is..I also feel no one should be ashamed of who they are no matter what their race is, love yourself.

black men want what every man wants and thats the only thing that rules the world,However and from whom ever he got it changes that persons view.Everybody has a stereotype that they are attached to .the real question is will you work for something you want or settle for something less.all women are hard to understand its up to us (men) to treat which ever woman we get the right way cuase when you mess it up that's one more brick the next man has to take down. ya dig?

so i see "THAT GUY" must be a slave to some black bitch that made his dumb ass write that shit!!!! Wheres my nigga bluez at??? Lol....... "That Guy" must not have a black baby momma..... get passed the fact that black bitches got big asses cuz all the shit that u have to put up with to be with that big stankin ass aint worth it!!!!!! Lol..... u wanna be pro black ass nigga!!!! how u figure a sista is gonna ride in a tough situation when she busy takin ya dumb ass to court for child support nigga..... but shit... why are we arguing... u can have all the black bitches in the world, keep them mutha fuckas away from me!!!! Lol

I thought this was about COCO acting? She could be any color ...Her ass still can't act. Law & Order was  just giving money away .To be truthful, Ice T can date all the white women in the world with his ugly,old and Classic 6 in the morning mixed ass..
Anyway, all men want is(that's if he's not Gay or Bi)(lol) a real  Femininity woman.....
To these young black men that are downing  black woman. I can tell your (black ) mother has hurt you metality. They didn't mean too. Find it in your heart to forgive. you wonder why there is so many single black mothers with boy by there self.No man (not all black men feel this way) want to raise another man child.So, Women get mad at  there Child or(boy) baby and mistreat them..
So, Young and old men let that go... It's hard. But, let it go..(lol) You know who you are...

CAN SOMONE!!ANYONE!!FIND ANYTHING PRINTED OR OTHERWISE THAT PUT DOWN ANY OTHER RACE OF WOMEN ANYWHERE THAT THERE OWN RACE PUTS THEM DOWN IN A MANNER LIKE THIS? ANY BODY? I DIDN'T THINK SO!! YOU CALL YOURSELVES MEN , BUT YOU CAN'T MAKE AN INTELEGENT STATEMENT SO YOU JUST SAY "BLACK BITCHES" OR "HOES" DAMN WHAT IS THE REASON FOR THIS, I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR AN ANSWER THAT MAKE SENSE! I MEAN FOR REAL? IS THIS HOW YOU VIEW BLACK WOMEN OR HAVE YOU MADE A BAD CHOICE OF WOMAN AND GOT PLAYED SO NOW EVERY BLACK WOMEN IS JUST F#*KED UP? I MEAN I REALLY WANT TO KNOW. IF YOU REALLY PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU ARE READING AND STEP IN A BLACK WOMEN'S SHOES HOW WOULD THESE COMMENTS MAKE YOU AND YOUR SISTERS AND MOTHERS FEEL. THESE COMMENTS EXCLUED NO ONE AND INCLUDES EVERY BLACK WOMEN YOU KNOW. IS THIS REALLY HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR OWN RACE? TELL ME THIS AIN'T SAD. :-(

ice-t is half white he can fuck wit a white chick if he wants and even if he wasnt who cares?? coco is bangin that should be enuff reason for anybody to get at her!!

Sistahs this is the 21st Century – the world is changing. If a black man wants to date outside his race – step to the side and let him do it. Don't cause yourself all this unnecessary stressing wondering and pleading why. Just because he dates another race doesn't make you less of a woman. You don't need their love to validate you – most of these men are strangers to you - I don't understand why you're giving them all this power over you. I'm a strong black woman and I could care less when a black man dates a white, Hispanic, Asian or whatever. Hell, the world is full of hot men, of all races – we don't have to be stuck on black any more than they do. There are men out there who truly appreciate what a black woman has to offer – go for them and stop trying to make sense out of why a black man decides to date another race. Instead appreciate all the options that you have. Once you open up your eyes to other men you'll see there are many that appreciate what we have to offer. Why try to make a man love you just because he's black. Talk about undue stress.

If a BOY feels that the only way he can refer to a sistah is to call her a bitch or a ho – don't waste your time trying to change that person. He either has psychological problems that require professional help – or he's a straight up bitch himself and is jealous that you're getting more dick than he is. Why would you spend a minute of your precious time on a board trying to get a boy who only seems women as bitches to change his mind. Just be grateful you both aren't sexing the same man. Trust, that much disrespect and hatred for a woman is just sheer jealously. Why would you want to bring him over to your side. Only a masochist would consider doing that.

Be proud of what you are – light or dark, small or large – there are men out there dying to get what you have to offer. Spend your time wisely. Love yourself. Don't waste time playing with boys who only think women are here to service them.

And don't diss a man who finds love with a woman who is not black. I'm happy for anyone who can find someone they can connect to. Many of the brothas on this board find love with a woman of another race are not disrespecting us – they don't deserve the hatred. My issue is with the boys whose small vocabulary only contain words like bitch and hos – let them be. Why try to convert someone like that. I'm thankful that I know no men like that. Trust, if you ignore them they will go find someone to play with who really cares what they think. Personally I'd pay to have them leave black women alone - I'd introduce them to women of other races.

Life is too short for this stupid shit. Concentrate on what makes you and yours happy. Snatch someone up that can make you happy – expand your world and focus on that. You'll have less headaches and enjoy life more.

I agree black women are they're own worst enemy, dark black women be the first to holla that "STRONG SISTA" shit (snaps fingers and neck in mockery)
then soon as the broke light-skinned J-Holiday nigga approaches yall you will dead the accomplished Tyrese complected nigga in minute,
Me and dogs travel the usa in our line of business and when we go to the clubs that are a upscale "mixed" atmospere I make it a personal mission to approach sistas first and everytime, every gotdam time it's the same respones ugghhh, I'll be back, I got a boyfriend (then be smiling in another light-skinned nigga face).
But then the "white-devil" that yall hate so much is always inqusitive and ask "who am I as a person" and then they find out how successful I am or the potential I have and wanna ride for me cause they found the diamond that was coverd in coal. So keep that in mind Black stank Bitches next time you see a "successful dark-skinned brotha" wit a snow bunny looking happy, you could've had her place if you never played him for the light-skinned toy thug with cornrolls that's usually broke and cheats on you and ends up pounce you out cause he never liked you anyway.

P.S. Remember just like you need love so do we bitches, ask Seal? of Michael Clark Ducan both married to successful white women that gave them a shot opposed tp the sista that played cause of his complexion

First and foremost, I want to state my age (24) and say that any of my comments from here on are strictly from the experiences in my life, and also that I come from a single parent home raised by a beautiful dark-skinned woman. I'm a younger man and also married to a beautiful, darker skinned woman. Sexy, educated, well-spoken and opinionated.  I really do think that brothers have been systematically brain-washed into thinking that lighter skinned women are more beautiful, but I also think that sisters in general have been brain-washed into thinking they way they do.  The bitchy-ness, the cattyness and the bossyness seem to be, again in my opinion, revered by black woman.  I try to take in account the relationship that blackwoman and men have had in the last 30 or so years. The stress of the economical situation of our people has made the black woman stressed and fed-up.  They've had to be providers and stronger willed because WE as black men have had our pride taking away.  Not to place all blame on society because we MUST take ownership in all the bullshit we put our ladies through. I'm not conceited by any since of the word, but as a good looking man I never a problem finding a beautiful woman willing to be a part of my life. I've been with every hue of black woman and some spanish women also. Been with meaning, in a relationship. From my experience, it has been more of a "way they were raised" thing than anything else that has contributed to their disposition. I mean you can tell difference between girls from NY and ATL. The family oriented nature of a woman plays a drastic role in all of this. Black men and women need to take a look at themselves because the universe is reflexive and you tend to get what you put out.  If you're a "thug" then what do expect to attact besides women who arel looking for that? And what exactly do you think these women personalities are gonna be like? They are your equals.  Carry yourself with respect, pride and dignity and you will attract your equal. I never holla and never did.  But I have the privellege to be around black men in higher social standing and tax bracket and they seem to be brainwashed. Why are green or hazel eyes more beautiul than brown?  They're not. I've asked these same men why do you prefer white woman or fairer skinned women and they had no response. And when they did respond it was stereo types of submissiveness and loyalty. Brothers just need to do right. I'm not trying to stand on soap box but thats just the truth. And understand anybody that is with anybody strictly for looks are doomed to fail.  Life is so much more deeper than that. I also have a daughter, who takes after her mother in her complexion.  I tell her that her beautiful cocoa skin a gods blessing in the flesh.  I already know the life she faces and the discrimination that she is going to get from her own brethren. She'll grow strong and find a man WORTHY of her.  I love all black women, light-brite to blue-black.  Please don't think wrong about my brothers from previous posts they are just products of life as they know it.  Raise above. Dismantle the system.  Realize that in order for anything to change unity is a necessity.

Another thing, please black men, support your sisters. I'm not saying I'm not brain-washed too, but think, why do you think Alex Wek (the model) is ugly? Is it because of comparison? Who are you comparing her too? THINK PLEASE!!! Why is her traditional, and in my opinion beautiful, African look not appealing to you.  I used to think she was Biz Markie ugly, but now I see her beauty for what it is.  I'm tired of hearing my boys and counterparts saying, "If I could find a good looking dark girl I would date them."  What is your definition of beauty?  Straight hair?  Small noses?  Green eyes? Light skin?  Who are you describing???  And sisters please, sit down and evaluate who you are.  What type of man are you after?  How can you blame anyone but yourself for the shit you got yourself into?  Bitch is a word that is supposed to be negatively annotated.  You don't want to "own" that word.  Show some humility, it's alright to be feminine and submissive to a good man.  But you have to understand the man you are with, is only there because you allow him to be there, and any man worth while won't be there unless you are worth it yourself.  Once again, I want to say I love you sisters of all hues, and if you are lighter skinned please don't take offense to anything, I just want to defend some of my sisters, wives and daughters that don't get their due.  Peace and Blessings... 100

I'm glad to read a comment like lady j dropped. I wish everybody else in the world thought like that. Noble Drew i agree with you as well to a certain extent. Beautiful is in the eyes of the beholder, remember that. So no matter what your perspective of beauty is, everybody have they own taste that they like. As for the women that only comment towards ppl that refer to woman as "bitches" and "hoes" thats the reason alot of women say there are no men out there. Instead of replying to some of the intellegent and thought pervoking statements, you chose to go after the ignorant, no life statements. Thats the same in real life from what i see. Instead of going after real men who are mature, polite and real gentlemen, you are attracted to ass holes and then wonder why there are no good men. I'm saying this from experience. I see my real "birth sisters" all the time dating ass holes and wonder why there are no good men. A good hard working guy to a lot of females is not what they want. They want a good hard working man with "money" and a "nice job" like a lawyer or doctor. But a man who makes his living honest but may only make 30k a yr, you over look. It happens all the time. I think a lot of ppl need to re-evaluate themselves instead of always pointing the blame. I'm only taking this off topic, because most of the females who responded, only responded to the negativity. Do you get the picture? And for the ones that didn't, i wish there were more woman like you...

LOOK IM HERE TO TELL YALL RIGHT NOW , THIS WORLD IS MESSED UP. IT DOSNT MATTER WHO YOU ARE WITH WELL ALL HAVE THE SAME COLOR BLOOD, 4 LIMBS AND A BRAIN.  ITS IN GODS PLAN  TO SEND YOU SOMEONE NO MATTER WHAT COLOR SHE IS, BUT (IT HAD TO BE A BUT IN THERE). LETS GET TO IT THERE ARE MANY FACTORS THAT ARE DIFFERENT BETWEEN BLACK WOMEN AND WHITE WOMEN. ILL GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE LATER AT THE END. LETS START WITH BLACK WOMEN FIRST..

1. BLACK WOMEN ARE VERY MATERIALISTIC..
2. YOU HAVE TO HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON FOR YOU FOR THEM TO EVEN SAY SOMETHING TO YOU MOST OF THE TIME.
3. THE WORD IM INDEPENDANT.
4. MOST CASES THEY LOOK AT THE CAR YOU DRIVE.
5. FIRST THEY ASK YOU IN A CONVERSATION WHAT DO YOU FOR A LIVING. INSTEAD OF ASKING ABOUT FAMILY OR ETC.
6. SOMETIMES LIE IN OUR FACE.
7. PICKY ABOUT DARK GUYS AND LIGHT GUYS.
8. WONDERING WHO STAY WITH.
9. DO YOU HAVE YOUR OWN PLACE.(SOMEBODY COULD BE GOING TO SCHOOL , TRYING TO START A BUSINESS OR SOMETHING).
10. SAY THAT THEY ARE SINGLE COME TO FIND OUT THAT THEY ARE NOT.
11. LAST BUT NOT LEAST .....INSECURE

WHAT GUY IN THERE RIGHT MIND WANT TO DEAL WITH ALL OF THAT STUFF... THEN YOU SOME BLACK WOMEN THAT DO HAVE A EDUCATION ARE MOST SNOTTYEST WOMEN THE WORLD , YOU LIKE YOU ARE TO PERFECT, THEN YOU ARE THE MOST PICKYEST PERSON.. I KNOW YOU WHAT SOMEONE THAT JUST AS EQUAL AS YOU , BUT MY GOD. DONT GET ME WRONG NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE BAD. BUT LOOK ITS NOT GETTING ANY BETTER.  WE AS BLACK MEN MUST STAND STRONG , AND STOP LOOKING AT THESE WOMEN WITH THE BIGGEST ASS AND BREAST, YOU KNOW THOSE ARE NO GOOD THEY NUTHIN GOING FOR THEMSELVES IS TO TRY TO GET AS MANY MEN UNDERNEATH THERE BELT SO YOU CAN BE A STATISTIC. THEM THE ONES THAT WANNA BE PIMPETTES. FORGET DYME PIECES AND ALL OF THAT... JUST THINK IF SHE FINE AS LIFE THINK ABOUT HOW MANY MEN COME AT HER BLOWING HER HEAD UP... I SAY THIS  WITH WHITE NOW.

1. ASK HOW YOU DOING IS EVERYTHING OK.
2. ASK IF YOU NEED ANYTHING.
3. BE THERE WITH YOU THOUGH THICK AND THIN.
4. DONT HAVE TO GO OUT ALL THE TIME.
5. THOUGHFUL
6. SOMETIMES DRAMATIC (BLACK WOMEN TOO MOSTLY WHITE WOMEN)
7. IF EDUCATED THEY DONT BE PICKY ABOUT WHO THEY DATE.
8. CAN BE VERY SINCERE..
9. DONT MIND YOU GOING OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS TOO MUCH.
10. NO BABY DAD DRAMA
11. APPRICATE WHAT YOU DO FOR THEM.
12 DONT ACT CONCEITED.

THESE ARE SOME THE THING THAT MAKE WHITE AND BLACK WOMEN DIFFERENT.. ITS SAD BUT ITS THE TRUTH..

LET ME SAY THIS AND MOVE ON.....

NOT ONE PERSON HAS MENTIONED LOVE.

ALL THE WOMEN ON HERE SPEAK OF BLACK MEN DATING WHITE WOMEN...BUT I BET ALL OF YOU ARE PROUD FOR HALLEY BERRY RIGHT?

AND FOR REAL IF YOU DON'T KNOW SOMEONE'S SITUATION DON'T SPEAK ON IT...CAUSE IN THE END YOU ARE THE TRUE HATER....INSTEAD OF HATING ON THE BROTHER WITH A WHITE GIRL ON HIS ARM....ASK HIM WHY SHE'S THERE.  THEN TURN AROUND AND ASK YOURSELF WHY ARE YOU SINGLE....MAYBE SHE IS JUST MORE WOMAN THAN YOU AND THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH COLOR....JUST BEING A WOMAN.

I WON'T DATE OUT MY RACE AND I AM BLACK....REDBONE OR BLACK AS CHIMNEY SMOKE....I LOVE ALL MY BLACK QUEENS.  BUT I AM TIRED OF HEARING THE COMPLAINING OF WHO'S ON ANOTHER PERSON'S SHOULDER WHEN YOU STANDING THERE ALONE.

WORRY ABOUT WHO YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU ARE GOING IN LIFE AND MAYBE YOU JUST MIGHT FIND SOMEONE.

now being a black man i married a black woman. had my 3 beautiful kids with them.  I was married for 7 years and I swear to god on my kids life and my parents that was the hardest 7 years of my life.  Now as a husband i wasnt the greatest.  I neglected her because i thought working, keeping a roof over our heads, and food on the table, and keep the kids straight was more important.  well instead of talking it out all we did was argue.  i spent more time in jail for (alleged) actions to her that she said i did when i didnt.  I got divorced 2 years ago and ive decided ive had enough so i went strictly to white girls.  and some of them are crazy as hell, and not because they nuts per se but because they hard to get rid of if u dont want them.  ive been with this one white woman for the last 2 years best time of my life.  my kids know who she is the ex knows who she is my fam knows and everything is straight.  a lot of black men have had experiences like this.  some deserve what they get SOME do not deserve it.  and Ive spoken to a lot of black men who said the same thing i have here.  they try and it didnt work and went a different route and they are happy.  just a preference i believe.  HOLLA

Here's where you get lost No Name... Why would I need to respond to a positive comment & beauty in the eye of the beholder?  How could that be possible if your view of beauty has been skewed? And LadyJ, I hope you find happiness, INSIDE OF YOUR RACE.  I think we really need to stick together. Its great to be in the 21st century but what does that mean when we are facing the same bullshit from the the 19th.  I'm all for us finding love period. But people, we were MADE for each other.  Our blood, our struggle, black man and black woman. Us being together is worth the "stress" and "headaches."  We need to repair our relationships, and fight for our marriages, but all the changes must start within.  Improve ourselves.  I just don't know, your post really disturbed me LadyJ,  I hope my daughter doesn't end up with your opinion.  It sounds horrible, but I can only hope that your bitter from some experience with a black man, and that's why you wrote such a venomous paragraph.

I dont believe lady js message was venomous at all i think its just grown and come to some understanding that you just wont please everyone so please yourself.  I believe if you can be clear with your choice and YOU are happy with that choice then who cares what others think.  should blacks date their own? if they can get along then yes sure why not, but if all you do is fight and for some obskewed reason you just dont get along then try somthing different.  there is no point in stressing yourself out over something that just isnt working for YOU.  I have 3 sisters and two daughters and I will try to raise my daughters to be respectful of who they are but never give in to stupidity.  And as for my sisters (my blood i mean) they all ended up with ignorant black men.  One has kids that he is not even taking care of and got one with my sister.  one of my sisters has a babies daddy in jail for god knows how long and one she is divorcing because he doesnt want to acknowledge the other child as his even though he did marry her.  THEN i got another sister who dont even know who her babies daddy is.  I got a nephew who will never know his father at all.  all of my sisters are straight A students one with a bachelor degree working on a masters.  one who went to school to do hair and has graduated from that. and one who aint got a clue.  And we are all preachers kids who were raised better.  Yet out of all of them for 7 years i was the only one who got married and had all of my kids in wedlock.  And guess who cheated on who.  Yea she cheated on me so for those that dont think black women had some odd views of what they want in a black man they might want to read this because Ive met many who are just like this.  for every good honest black men theres probably 10 not so great some try and still get treated like crap others dont try at all and deserve what they get.  Im happier and less stressed and since I decided to go a different route.  My choice but I am happier all around.  those that do it for trophys are ignorant and deserved to be wiped off the map.  I made my choice for me i tried I kept getting bull**** and fights all the time so i gave up.  And even though my mother hated it royally after getting to know her and why i chose her she understood why im not pissed all the time.  why I havnt been back in jail for crap.  why now I can come home from work and be able to discuss something bothering me without fussing and bringing my home to work or vice versa.  Go with what makes YOU happy and thats all that matters period cause in the end the only person you have to answer to is GOD.

HAHAHAHH AHAHAhHAHAha..............WIPPPPPE OUT.      You guys are sooooo hilarious. Like, really. Arguing over old ass racials issues cause yall mad Ice T got a bad ass chick. And yes that is one bad ass chick. Yes that bull Ice-T a hypocrite for talking all that revolutionary type shit back in the day , but at the end of the day, he's a man who needs some good looking ass. And guess what? He purchased it. Don't be a player hater. The man is just "doing him." And you would too if you knew what the game would do to you. Been in this shit since 92' look at all the bullshit I been through.... hahhaha, It's bone and biggy biggy.  Oh yea for the record , I love all you beautiful black woman out there in the world. Especially the black ass ones. Forreal, I always had a thing for petite dark skinned chicks but I always ended up with light skinned chicks because that the only chicks that usually give me play. I guess most dark skinned chicks didn't like me.. Don't know why...just my luck I guess. Then one day I met this chick that looked exactly like Bria Myles , ass , hair and everything except on a petite scale. I was in heaven for a minute,,, then shorty ended up playing me like chump.  Now , I'm like fuck these black ass bitches.....sike naw. But damn the coochie was superb. I miss her like I miss hip-hop. Sooooooo, the Moral of the story is... regardless of race ...always have a side jawn or else you will end up like KrispMx, wifing a fucking old head that'll keep your nuts in her pocket and let you borrow them on the week ends. Good night America..But before I leave ...live with these 3 wordses...Just do it, cause after 15 minutes nobody really cares.

3Vl3yp      Were a U from?

hahahahaha dis shit is funny.....am a hard workin sista n neva ve time 4 things lik dis bt a white girl of mine sent me dis link n i ve actually read every single word even though i ve a presentation 2 prepare, lol, i ll just lik 2 say sumfn its 21st century people wake up, i knw been of a minority group is hard n we need 2 support each other bt when it comes 2 relationships d8 whoeva does it 4 u pls.....am 29 ma husband is white we been married 4  8yrs n we gt 4 lovely kids, i gt d whole independent shit package cos dats hw i was raised 2 b strong n when ma boo is dwn i support him i luv him n he luvs me 2, while growin up some brothas were wit sistas n some were wit white gals bt i din giv 2 i gt mine eventuallly n am happy.... d point of dis is sistas b happy 4 a brotha when he finds happiness wit whoeva n dut let any1 put u dwn if u dut find a black guy worth u, look elsewhere, white guys aint bad 4get d ol view, they as good if nt better in some cases as d nxt man in bed n they gt everything a black guy has plus more appreciation n d obvious one he wont call u a ho or wear a jersey wit his pants dwn n grills in ur ride wit d radio on max 2 ur parents dinner party n think its HIP, 4 all those sistas pissed bout been called names dis nxt line is 4 yall am gonna giv d brothas a piece of their own cake.....when ur wit a brotha u ve 2 worry everytime u c d cops car pass by u keep wonderin is it comin 4 him dis time; when u find out ur pregnant u wonder if his gonna stand by u or even worse b in jail;when u gt paid u ve 2 split d money in2 2 one 4 his fake ass grills n baggy jeans n d other 4 d bills; u keep wonderin if yall r ever gonna walk dwn d aisle; u neva gt gifts of appreciation; u work 9 to 5 n ur boss is been hittin on u bt u keep it real 4 ur man n come home 2 meet a dirty lounge dat looks nothin lik hw u left it u throw tantrums cos ur only human, sistas r strong yes bt even d strongest man has his weakness so u allowed a moment of weakness ur man dut even feel remorse or cos he aint in d wrong he dut even try 2 understand u; u keep wonderin which 1 of ur sistas or nxt gal his been hittin on recently n if his gt an STD already; u keep wonderin d nxt time ur gonna end up in d emergency room fro 1 of his tantrums, even tho ur nt allowed urs; u come home 2 a house stinkin of booze, weed n c some nxt gal up in ur house n if u gt kids they ask u wots a nigga cos him n his friends kept usin dat word; if u unfortunately walk dwn d aisle wit him when u older u either ve 2 do some surgery which could kill u 2 look 20yrs younger or face him leavin u wit more than half of wot u worked ur whole life 2 help him gt 4 a younger girl who is most likely light skinned..... i aint dissin brothas bt yall r talkin bout a selection of sis so dis is ma selection of brothas nw u c hw it feels 2 b judged bcos of a stereotype, every individual is different find who soothes u n dut h8 on sistas remember ur mum is one, if a white gal does it 4 u then am happy 4 u bt if it goes wrong wit a sista pls dut tk it out on another....... n sistas wake up i knw some of yall just want respect bt there r always gonna b a few pigs, am all 4 d support movement cos we need 2 tk care of each other bt hey lets learn 2 celebrate anothers happiness ,dis is d same thing i tell ma sistas around me if they dut respect u look 4 who does life is 2 short, dut change who u r 2 make any1 happy u ll gt urs one day bt i think d problem is yall restrict urself 2 brothas only yall need 2 reach out, when i n ma boo started datin some sistas kept wonderin wot i was doin bcos he din ve nothin 2 his name he was a student lik me 1st in his family 2 go 2 uni n i paid his bills fro ma pocket money sometimes bt i saw good in him n ignored d brothas who in their view were better than him n nw durin reunions those sistas always ve sumfn 2 complain bout n most of em aint even married bt gt they gt kids 4 dis so called brothas n they keep tellin me hw lucky i am cos ma man is gt dat paper in stacks nw n i aint doin 2 bad plus i gt ma kids, so sistas find someone who makes u happy n b happy 4 a brotha when he is happy, brothas stop h8in on sistas its kinda suprisin dis same qualities u complain we ve is wot turns ma hubby on cos after d quarrels there is always d make up n even though i gt cranky sometimes his become accustomed 2 ma moods n knw hw 2 appease me esp when i just want attention n he knws i ll always b there 4 him till death do we part.....lik i said am all 4 d support each other movement bt ppl d world is changin move wit d flow